We all have days when we feel irritable or easily frustrated. These
emotions often diminish as the day goes by and we become distracted
with chores and daily activities. But how would you feel if they lingered
on for days at a time?
Many seniors fall victim to a constant feeling of anger, which affects
the way they handle simple, everyday tasks and interactions with others.
In fact, one in five older adults wrestles with anger on a daily basis,
making it essential for caregivers to understand how to successfully
handle angry loved ones.
Caregivers may benefit from learning the signals that indicate someone
may be suffering with feelings of anger. Patience and understanding
are the keys to successfully dealing with an angry family member or
friend.
Most often feelings of anger stem from an illness that has caused the
person to lose control of a body function that hinders mobility or communication.
Dissatisfaction with life accomplishments such as unresolved career
plans or family obligations, or frustration with the aging process can
also stir angry emotions in older adults.
It is important to remember that an angry senior is not simply looking
for attention. If not handled effectively, anger can lead to severe
depression, physical ailments including ulcers, anxiety and headaches,
or even suicide.
The Saint Barnabas Nursing and Rehabilitation Centers have provided
some useful "tips" to help caregivers recognize and effectively deal
with angry elders:
- Ask questions. The most common indication of
anger is physical or verbal abuse. If such behavior
is occurring, take time to ask questions. How
is your day going? Is anything bothering you?
How did you sleep last night?
- Re-channel anger. A day out in the fresh air,
lunch at a local restaurant, and simple exercises
can all help combat angry feelings. Any physical,
recreational, or social activity is beneficial.
- Be a good listener. Older adults often feel
ignored or unimportant. Being attentive and interested
in what they are saying can provide a much needed
boost to their feelings of self-worth.
- Create an environment that works. Changing
the way furniture is placed in a room or switching
seats at the dinner table to accommodate the
preferences of a loved one are easier than constant
bickering. Anything that makes the person feel
more comfortable and relaxed can help.
It is important for caregivers to realize that in most cases this anger
is not about them. Understand that you are not the problem, but can
play an enormous role in the solution.
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